{"id":332,"date":"2015-07-18T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-07-18T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/2015\/07\/18\/the-dummys-guide-to-controlling-your-emotions-in-front-of-your-kids\/"},"modified":"2022-11-06T16:59:44","modified_gmt":"2022-11-06T08:59:44","slug":"the-dummys-guide-to-controlling-your-emotions-in-front-of-your-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/the-dummys-guide-to-controlling-your-emotions-in-front-of-your-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"The Dummy&#8217;s Guide To Controlling Your Emotions In Front Of Your Kids"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22&#8243; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|||&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px|||&#8221;][et_pb_row custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;off|phone&#8221; module_class=&#8221;single-post-body et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth et_pb_row_fullwidth&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; width=&#8221;89%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;80%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;89%&#8221; max_width_tablet=&#8221;80%&#8221; max_width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;|0px||0px&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; make_fullwidth=&#8221;on&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Main Blog Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.27.4&#8243; text_font_size=&#8221;16&#8243; text_line_height=&#8221;28px&#8221; header_font=&#8221;geomanist-bold||||&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;-55px|-45px||&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_font_size_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_size_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_line_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_line_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_line_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Dear Mommies and Daddies,<\/p>\n<p>Have you had to go through the ordeal of dealing with disappointment when your children received grades that did not meet expectations? Or, have you had to console your highly-motivated children when they got results that were worse than they expected?<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h2>Read Also<\/strong><\/h2>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/is-your-child-make-these-11-time-wasting-mistakes-stop-them-right-away\/\">Is Your Child Making These 11 Time-wasting Mistakes? Stop Them Right Away!<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/three-shocking-mistakes-that-are-draining-your-childs-time-and-how-to-avoid-them\/\">How To Avoid&nbsp;Mistakes That Are Draining Your Child\u2019s Time<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/child-needs-know-adaptations\/\">What Your Child Needs To Know About Adaptations<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/5-ways-hurting-self-esteem\/\">5 Ways You Are Hurting Your Child\u2019s Self-Esteem<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Such negative emotions are definitely unpleasant and if left unmanaged, this could even lead to discontentment within the family and even harm your familial ties! In order to avoid a vicious cycle of negative events, both parents and children should manage their emotions and try to tackle the problems together.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some ideas on how to handle emotions when expectations are not met!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031; font-family: geomanist-bold;\">#1: Understanding Disappointment and Acceptance<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Perhaps the most important way of managing unmet expectations would be to avoid disappointment from overpowering all other emotions, or even rational thought.<\/p>\n<p>Disappointment as an emotion, on the whole, has a lot to do with ourselves; disappointment tends to arise out of our <em>own<\/em> demands, how <em>we<\/em> think others should act or perform, or even how <em>we <\/em>think the world should be.<\/p>\n<p>If we can understand that this is how disappointment manifests itself in our lives, then it would be easier to accept that perhaps we did not fully understand the situation &#8212; especially from other points of view &#8212; which led to possibly unrealistic or difficult-to-fulfil expectations.<\/p>\n<p>Usually, when parents view grades as unsatisfactory, they make their disappointment clear to their children. This would lead to a negative cycle, as children who might already be disappointed with their results would feel even guiltier about their failure to meet the expectations of their parents!<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, in order to avoid damaging your children\u2019s self-esteem, accepting that the unsatisfactory grades are already fixed and that there could be other reasons for the unsatisfactory grades, would be helpful.<\/p>\n<p>Once you have understood the situation and managed your own emotions, you can then help manage your children\u2019s emotions more effectively, by explaining the concepts behind disappointment and acceptance to them!<\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031; font-family: geomanist-bold;\">#2: Communication<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It is sometimes unrealistic, especially for busy parents with hectic work schedules, to expect to know everything about the daily lives of your children. There might\u2019ve been an underlying issue that caused the below-par grades. Hence, communication with your children would be the key to knowing the whole story!<\/p>\n<p>Although children may dread <em>\u201cThe Talk\u201d<\/em> with their parents, it is usually because parents sometimes lose control over themselves and aggressively interrogate their children on why they \u201cdid not do well\u201d or \u201cgot terrible grades\u201d or even resort to disciplinary measures to deal with the unmet expectations.<\/p>\n<p>It would be far more productive to start a discussion to find out if anything has been bothering your children, or if they need help with certain issues.<\/p>\n<p>This would be beneficial to both parents and children, as parents would be able to understand and accept why their children did not do as well as they expected due to certain reasons, and children would be able to voice their problems and possibly get help or advice from their parents.<\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031; font-family: geomanist-bold;\">#3: De-stress and Family Bonding<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Most parents\u2019 reactions to unsatisfactory grades would be to overload their children with work and extra assignments or supplementary workbooks.<\/p>\n<p>This could actually be counter-productive as it does not help to raise your children\u2019s morale, and lowered self-esteem or morale could actually lead to your children underperforming even more in the next examination!<\/p>\n<p>If you have seen that your children have actually put in a lot of effort in studying for the examinations, to the extent of forgoing family outings and leisure, it would definitely be beneficial to take a short break and spend some quality time together with them.<\/p>\n<p>If parents have been too busy with work or other commitments to spend time with their children, it is not unconceivable that their children might have neglected their studies in order to seek attention from their parents. Spending quality time with them would boost their morale; also, the promise of a family outing or holiday could be great motivation for them to work to achieve good results.<\/p>\n<p>Furthermore, these family activities or outings would also help to build stronger ties within the family, which would result in a more comfortable family environment for both parents and children. This would help to manage the negative emotions of both parents and children!<\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031; font-family: geomanist-bold;\">#4: Planning For The Future <\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It is important to understand the value of moving on and accepting that the examinations are already over and the results can no longer be changed. Planning for the future could help with coming to terms with the unsatisfactory grades.<\/p>\n<p>Do your children need additional help with certain subjects? Are your children unable to learn efficiently from their teachers in school?<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps finding out about private tutors or sending your children for tuition classes to help with their weaker subjects would be beneficial! Thinking about other options could help you to look forward and be more assured that your children will do better in future. Thus, this allows you to overcome the negative emotions you are currently experiencing!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031; font-family: geomanist-bold;\">One last note\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If all else fails, time is a powerful healing factor.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you just need some time and space to deal with disappointment and other associated negative emotions, or if your children just need time to come to terms with their results, it would be helpful to remember the adage \u201ctime heals all wounds\u201d. Negative emotions are definitely unpleasant and it is not always possible to actively deal with them. However, over time, these negative emotions will surely fade away!<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;3.22.7&#8243; custom_margin=&#8221;0px||&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||&#8221; global_module=&#8221;933&#8243;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_divider color=&#8221;#898989&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22.7&#8243;][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/The-Pique-Lab-Parent-Support-Group-CTA.jpg.png&#8221; url=&#8221;https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/279058918884463\/&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; align_tablet=&#8221;center&#8221; align_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;PSG&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.23&#8243; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;3.27.4&#8243; text_text_color=&#8221;#333333&#8243; text_font_size=&#8221;18px&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;center&#8221; z_index_tablet=&#8221;500&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Please click <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/279058918884463\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>here<\/strong><\/a> to join our Parent Support Group on Facebook!<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":241539,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<span style=\"font-family: geomanist-bold;\">Students learn<\/span> the topic of <span style=\"color: #d00031;\"><strong>Electricity<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0at Primary 5 and many of them find the concepts to be confusing, especially when they are first exposed to this topic.\r\n\r\nAs such, over the next few blog posts, I will be sharing more about the concepts of <span style=\"color: #d30001;\"><strong>Electricity<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0that are commonly tested during examinations.\r\n\r\nIn today\u2019s blog post, I will be focusing on the arrangement of the wires in a bulb and relate it to how a bulb should be connected in a circuit.\r\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031;\">Today\u2019s Question:<\/span><\/h2>\r\n<blockquote><span style=\"color: #d00031;\"><strong>How Should The Bulb Be Connected To The Circuit For It To Light Up?<\/strong><\/span><\/blockquote>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The following question is commonly encountered by students during tests.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/ACS-J-Question.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8447 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/ACS-J-Question-1024x630.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"630\" \/><\/a><em>Question Credit: Anglo Chinese School (Junior)\/ 2015 Primary 5 SA1\/ Question 18<\/em><\/p>\r\nWe can see that the key difference between the four options is the connection of the bulb(s) in the circuit.\r\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #d00031;\">Requirements Needed for a Bulb to Light Up<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Screenshot-2017-09-17-12.54.25.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8451 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Screenshot-2017-09-17-12.54.25-1024x547.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"547\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\n<strong><u>One wire is connected to the metal casing & one wire is connected to the metal tip<\/u><\/strong>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Example-of-a-Closed-Circuit.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8452 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Example-of-a-Closed-Circuit-e1505630926957-1024x665.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"665\" \/><\/a><em>Example of a closed circuit<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen the wires in the circuit are connected to the metal casing and metal tip of the bulb, there is a closed (or complete) circuit with the bulb. Electricity will be able to flow through the filament, causing the bulb to light up.\r\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031;\"><strong>What Happens When Both Wires Are Connected To The Metal Tip\/Metal Casing?<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\n<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Scenario #1: Both wires are connected to the metal tip<\/strong><\/span>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Scenario-1.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8453 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Scenario-1-e1506494508837-1024x543.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"543\" \/><\/a>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">E<em>xample of a circuit when the wires are connected only to the metal tip<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen both wires are connected to the metal tip of the bulb, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n\r\n<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Scenario #2: Both wires are connected to the metal casing<\/strong><\/span>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Scenario-2.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8454 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Scenario-2-e1505630899322-1024x545.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"545\" \/><\/a>Example of a circuit when the wires are connected only to the metal casing<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen both wires are connected to the metal casing of the bulb, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n\r\nNow, let us now take a look at the question again.\r\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031;\"><strong>Analysis Of The Options<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/ACS-J-Question.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8447 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/ACS-J-Question-1024x630.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"630\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\nWhen analysing the circuits, students need to take note of one key point:\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #d30001;\"><strong>How is the bulb connected to the circuit?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\r\nIn the following analysis, I have traced the pathway that electricity flows through (in red) as well so that it is easier to understand why the bulb lights up.\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Circuit A<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-A.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8455\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-A-748x1024.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"329\" height=\"450\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\nBoth the metal casing and tip of the bulb are connected to the circuit, forming a closed circuit. Thus, electricity is able to flow through the wires in the circuit to the filament, allowing the bulb to light up.\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Circuit B<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-B.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-8456\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-B-940x1024.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"367\" height=\"400\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\nOnly the tip is connected to the circuit. Thus, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Circuit C<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-C.png\"><img class=\"alignnone wp-image-8457\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-C-1024x819.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"475\" height=\"380\" \/><\/a><\/p>\r\nOnly the casing is connected to the circuit. Thus, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Circuit D<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-D.png\"><img class=\"alignnone wp-image-8458\" src=\"https:\/\/thesmartstudent.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Circuit-D-707x1024.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"311\" height=\"450\" \/><\/a><\/p>\r\nBoth the metal casing and tip of the two bulbs are connected to the circuit, forming a closed circuit. Thus, electricity is able to flow through the wires in the circuit to the filaments, allowing the bulbs to light up.\r\n\r\nAs the bulbs in circuits A and D will light up, the correct answer is option 4.\r\n<h2><span style=\"color: #d00031;\"><strong>What We Have Learnt Today<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\nWhen students wish to find out if the bulb will light up, they should check the following:\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #d00031;\">Are both the metal casing and the tip of the bulb connected to the circuit?<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\r\nIf the answer to the question is \u2018yes\u2019, the bulb will light up. :)\r\n\r\nIn the next blog post, I will be sharing about the advantages and disadvantages of arranging bulbs in series and in parallel.\r\n\r\nStay tuned! :)\r\n\r\n<hr \/>\r\n\r\n[thrive_leads id='8207']","_et_gb_content_width":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_lmt_disableupdate":"no","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"post_folder":[],"modified_by":"Joline","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/332"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=332"}],"version-history":[{"count":14,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/332\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":241223,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/332\/revisions\/241223"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/241539"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=332"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=332"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=332"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=332"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}