{"id":293,"date":"2015-10-24T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-10-24T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/2015\/10\/24\/the-minimalist-guide-to-raising-a-teenage-boy\/"},"modified":"2022-05-27T09:19:28","modified_gmt":"2022-05-27T01:19:28","slug":"the-minimalist-guide-to-raising-a-teenage-boy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepiquelab.com\/blog\/the-minimalist-guide-to-raising-a-teenage-boy\/","title":{"rendered":"The Minimalist Guide To Raising A Teenage Boy"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nA brief mention of raising teenage boys and it is no surprise that parents will react either with a relieved smile on their faces, feeling glad that it is over or shaking their head in frustration for those who are experiencing it presently.<\/p>\n

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    For parents who have had a tough time raising their boys through their adolescence will probably forewarn aspiring parents who are hoping for a baby boy: \u2018Be careful of what you wish for!<\/em>\u2019.<\/p>\n

    Boys are often misunderstood. Their energy commonly misconstrued as mischief; their competitiveness as presumptive; their tenacity as arrogance; their resilience as obstinacy; their curiosity as disrespect for authority. As the parent of a son, the sacred duty is to help him grow up to manhood in ways that honor that divine design.<\/p>\n

    It is all about understanding your own teenage boy. It is noteworthy that raising a teenage girl is no cakewalk; merely dealing with different problems. Establishing trust and openness between parents and teenage sons is key! While most parents understand that concept in logic, to carry it out is a challenge in itself.<\/p>\n

    Want to make it right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

    The following points may set out a few guidelines on how to do so appropriately.<\/p>\n

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    #1 Allow him to confide<\/span><\/h3>\n

    If your son is grumpy after school, do not swarm him with interrogative questions.<\/p>\n

    “Simply say, ‘Looks like you’re upset. I’m here to help if I can,'” says Christine Nicholson, PhD, a psychologist specialising in adolescent therapy in Kirkland, Washington.<\/p>\n

    Then bring it up later: I’m concerned that something bad happened at school. If he lets you in a bit (School is boring), echo his feeling (Yeah, school can be boring). Odds are he will open up: That teacher gives me so much homework. Again, validate his feelings, but this time coax out more: You do get a lot of homework. What do you have for tonight?<\/p>\n

    “Your son will know that you’re on his side and that you’re not going to lecture, so he’ll feel comfortable talking more in depth,” says Dr. Nicholson.”<\/p>\n

    It is about establishing a bond of friendship within the parent-son relationship. The ideal relationship is when a parent can be both a parent and best friend to their teenage son. With this bond, parents can then communicate with their teenage son who would be willing to listen and heed their advice.<\/p>\n

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    #2 Allow him to be emotional <\/span><\/h3>\n

    <\/u>Getting boys to open up about how they feel is one thing; getting them to understand that while bad feelings may linger, they don’t last is quite another.<\/p>\n

    “Boys prefer to focus on the problem rather than the emotion,” says Dan Kindlon, PhD, adjunct lecturer at Harvard School of Public Health and coauthor of Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. “Part of a parent’s responsibility is to teach his or her son that emotions\u2014whether pain, sadness, anger or fear\u2014don’t always go away quickly, and that’s OK. Eventually, he will begin to feel better.”<\/p>\n

    It is important to always understand that your teenage has feelings just like anyone else. Parents should ideally be the avenue where teenage sons can fully express their emotions. He should be able to cry and rejoice without reservation in front of their parents. This will give him the comfort that his parents are always there for him.<\/p>\n

    The key thing to realise for parents is that: Do not let your teenage son feel like he has to act like a grown up all the time!<\/p>\n

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    #3 Let your teenage son be independent<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

    Parents should always be conscious about when to tighten and when to let loose the parental grip. Your teenage sons should be allowed to explore the world and live through his own experiences. He should be allowed to be independent and learn to deal with his own hardships and challenges.<\/p>\n

    As parents, it is understandable that there is an urge to prevent their teenage sons from going through any unpleasant experiences, but it is essential to learn to let go. Several researchers have stated that when a teenager begins to assert his independence, he begins to grow from a child into a grown individual.<\/p>\n

    Understanding that your teenage son\u2019s mood swings and opinions are part and parcel of his self-discovery will help avoid conflicts and arguments.<\/p>\n

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    #4 Preserve his self-worth <\/span><\/h3>\n

    Never say \u201cBoys will be boys\u201d<\/em> or use other expressions that blame your son’s behaviour on his gender or that suggest he can’t control his actions. “The messages kids get from parents play a major role in the development of their self-esteem,” says Paul W. Schenk, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in Tucker, Georgia. “When your son hears words that attack who he is, it has a negative impact on his self-worth.”<\/p>\n

    Bottom line: He will begin to believe what those phrases imply that boys are troublemakers.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Saying You’re the smartest kid in the world<\/em> or You’re the best basketball player ever<\/em> sets expectations your son can’t live up to. “Praise his efforts rather than his talents,” says Dr. Kuchenbecker. According to studies at Columbia University, young kids feel more accomplished and better able to handle challenges when they’re praised for how they do a task (You worked hard<\/em>) and for completing it (Good job getting that done<\/em>), rather than when they hear general kudos like I’m proud of you.<\/p>\n

    It is about striking a balance between staying realistic and being positive with your encouragements!<\/p>\n

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    One last note\u2026<\/span><\/h3>\n

    Raising a teenage boy is by no means easy.<\/p>\n

    It takes huge amounts of effort and time. A series of trials and errors is unavoidable. You should always bear faith in not only yourself but also your teenage son.<\/p>\n

    Unfortunately, there is no fixed formula for this; just as every teenage boy is drastically different from another. It takes love and trust between parents and sons to work through the boy\u2019s adolescence in the most conducive manner.<\/p>\n

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    <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":295,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"Students learn<\/span> the topic of Electricity<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0at Primary 5 and many of them find the concepts to be confusing, especially when they are first exposed to this topic.\r\n\r\nAs such, over the next few blog posts, I will be sharing more about the concepts of Electricity<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0that are commonly tested during examinations.\r\n\r\nIn today\u2019s blog post, I will be focusing on the arrangement of the wires in a bulb and relate it to how a bulb should be connected in a circuit.\r\n

    Today\u2019s Question:<\/span><\/h2>\r\n
    How Should The Bulb Be Connected To The Circuit For It To Light Up?<\/strong><\/span><\/blockquote>\r\n

    The following question is commonly encountered by students during tests.<\/p>\r\n

    \"\"<\/a>Question Credit: Anglo Chinese School (Junior)\/ 2015 Primary 5 SA1\/ Question 18<\/em><\/p>\r\nWe can see that the key difference between the four options is the connection of the bulb(s) in the circuit.\r\n

    Requirements Needed for a Bulb to Light Up<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n\r\nOne wire is connected to the metal casing & one wire is connected to the metal tip<\/u><\/strong>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n

    \"\"<\/a>Example of a closed circuit<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen the wires in the circuit are connected to the metal casing and metal tip of the bulb, there is a closed (or complete) circuit with the bulb. Electricity will be able to flow through the filament, causing the bulb to light up.\r\n

    What Happens When Both Wires Are Connected To The Metal Tip\/Metal Casing?<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\nScenario #1: Both wires are connected to the metal tip<\/strong><\/span>\r\n\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n

    Example of a circuit when the wires are connected only to the metal tip<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen both wires are connected to the metal tip of the bulb, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n\r\nScenario #2: Both wires are connected to the metal casing<\/strong><\/span>\r\n\r\n\u00a0\r\n

    \"\"<\/a>Example of a circuit when the wires are connected only to the metal casing<\/em><\/p>\r\nWhen both wires are connected to the metal casing of the bulb, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n\r\nNow, let us now take a look at the question again.\r\n

    Analysis Of The Options<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n\r\nWhen analysing the circuits, students need to take note of one key point:\r\n

    How is the bulb connected to the circuit?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\r\nIn the following analysis, I have traced the pathway that electricity flows through (in red) as well so that it is easier to understand why the bulb lights up.\r\n

    Circuit A<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n\r\nBoth the metal casing and tip of the bulb are connected to the circuit, forming a closed circuit. Thus, electricity is able to flow through the wires in the circuit to the filament, allowing the bulb to light up.\r\n

    Circuit B<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n\"\"<\/a>\r\n\r\nOnly the tip is connected to the circuit. Thus, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n

    Circuit C<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n

    \"\"<\/a><\/p>\r\nOnly the casing is connected to the circuit. Thus, electricity is unable to flow through the filament, preventing the bulb from lighting up.\r\n

    Circuit D<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n

    \"\"<\/a><\/p>\r\nBoth the metal casing and tip of the two bulbs are connected to the circuit, forming a closed circuit. Thus, electricity is able to flow through the wires in the circuit to the filaments, allowing the bulbs to light up.\r\n\r\nAs the bulbs in circuits A and D will light up, the correct answer is option 4.\r\n

    What We Have Learnt Today<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\nWhen students wish to find out if the bulb will light up, they should check the following:\r\n

    Are both the metal casing and the tip of the bulb connected to the circuit?<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\r\nIf the answer to the question is \u2018yes\u2019, the bulb will light up. :)\r\n\r\nIn the next blog post, I will be sharing about the advantages and disadvantages of arranging bulbs in series and in parallel.\r\n\r\nStay tuned! :)\r\n\r\n
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